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How to Make Your Dreams Come True!

First and foremost, I asked you (or, I suppose, told you) to ”Stop!”.  Then, after describing briefly (hehe) what I thought it was we were doing “wrong” with our Relationships, I then -again, briefly (hehe)- explained “How?”  Well, here’s another approach.  Speaking personally, not just “theoretically”, I’m going to use my own Life as a basis for the premise.

It is actually quite simple to make your Dreams come True.  All you have to be willing/able to do, is to believe that they are possible.  The mind is a powerful thing!  It is the greatest muscle in the body.  It’s the “CPU” (Central Processing Unit) of our bodies.  It alone, is capable of interpreting for us the data of the World around us, and translating it in to recognizable patterns that make sense to us, thus allowing the ability to communicate.  To share.  To give to the energy of thought a power greater than 1.

Now that we believe they are possible to make real, all we have to do, is find someone else to believe in them too!  If we can do this, just these two things, we can accomplish anything, if we have just one other person believing our Dreams can come true!

If you manage to find someone who has the same Dream, you’ve found a Soulmate.  And if you both have had the same Dream, and both Believe it can come true, no human force or amount of difficulty can/could stop you!!  {For a recent and popular historical reference, see the “Wright Brothers”, and “Flying”.}

I’ve seen it personally, I’ve done it, I’ve shared it!  When Dreams come true, Magick happens!!  No one has the right to tell us our Dreams “can’t” come true, no one has the right to keep us from pursuing our Dreams!!  Besides, we are all more than capable of getting in our own way!   LOL  I’ve spent my whole Life chasing Dreams -well, okay, one specifically, but before the pieces started fitting together, they seemed to be more than one-, wondering what it was that caused and/or prevented them from happening.  That too, is a simple answer… Faith!

You see, nearly 1700 years ago (plus or minus, depending on which sources you believe make the most sense, and/or, how deep you get into the mystery of our “true” origins…), Humankinds Faith was turned upside down!  Men -in their “infinite Wisdom” ~insert implied sarcasm~- decided they alone should have power, and were tired and done with “sharing” it with the other half of Humanity (and, in my own personal Belief, the better half), Women.

This disrupted the balance of power, and, not surprisingly, has caused a ripple effect we are still feeling!  You see, here’s a secret…  {lean in close, don’t let it get out!}  IT TAKES TWO!!!  Life, in fact, cannot go on, without a pair.  You cannot have Life, or Love, without the other!!  Life (or Goddess, Mother Earth), and Love (or God, Heavenly Father) are Eternally connected!  Life (that Physical, discernible Substance) and Love (the Greatest Gift, indescribable, intangible Power) work in Harmony through ALL of Nature!  There is not one without the other!  When we (the Living) embrace Life, Love is found!  When we (the capable) share Love, Life is created!  When we divided Life/Love, Goddess/God, Positive/Negative, Earth/ Heaven, and said they “can’t exist together, it’s either, or!” we separated the Greatest Union in all of Creation!  For, as we ALL know, If there is a Mother, there must be a Father, and vice versa!  [Yes, there are always exceptions.  There are those among us who are not Living, and, sadly, those who are incapable of sharing Love.  There are such low Life forms that are capable of propagation asexually, but if we were created in “His” image, does that really apply to us???]  I digress.

When one seeks to dominate an other, nothing good comes of it!  We’ve been killing each other for millennia, and no one is any smarter for it!!!  Has either side in ANY  battle or War been proven Right, or wrong?  Or have we simply proven who was better at killing?  Lives taken in pursuit of unclaimed “X” (where X = whatever the excuse is, used to “better” ourselves, and gain some “Wisdom” not achieved/achievable while the other Lived), countless!  Actual “permanent” gain found, and brain cells multiplied (by even ONE), ZERO!!!  Game over.  Check the History books.  The result is the same, each, and every, time.

We cannot succeed on our own, a babe left alone in the woods has a slim chance.  We need each other.  We are not designed to survive alone, there is nothing Heaven or Earth alone can give us that will sustain us without help from the other.  So why do we continue to empower individual “Men” -or Women-, when we know, it takes Woman, & Man, working together, for Life to flourish?

We are all equal, we are all capable of success!  We are all at a time and moment in our Lives when our Dreams CAN come True!

But we must be willing to Believe!!!  We must accept NOT our limitations, but our LIMITLESS potential, and our ability to make our Dreams come true!!

I have dreamt of One Life, One Woman, One future, for as long as I can recall having dreamt at all!  And everything that has Inspired and shaped my Life, has led me to this point, this moment!  At the time in my Life that I was most miserable, is when I denied my Dreams most!  When I said “I can’t…” or “It can’t be true…” or “It can’t be that easy…” or “It/I can’t …” blah, blah, blah, yackity shmackity!

As soon as I accepted the simple possibility, that “It can…” or “I can…”, my Life began changing for the better!!  Once I realized that it was only me in my way of my Dreams coming True…  I’ve been on a Spiritual high ever since!  😀

Sadly, however, my Dreams have meshed with Visions.  Though this in and of itself is not a “sad” occurrence, it does bring in to play different variables.  Every one Dreams, of what they want to be, of who/what they like, what they “want” most…  Not everyone has/gets Visions, and/or recognizes them as such when they occur.  Dreams -in comparison- are easy to achieve, because they are your Dreams.  Rarely is the focus greater than you, in some context or another.  Visions, on the other hand, are not of the self, per se, they are of events Past/Present/Future, and though typically very precise, include more than One person.  Where you add other people, you add other wills!  Where you are following your Dreams, you follow a “single” path.  Where you are walking along the path of a Vision, others walk, and therefor they also have chosen (or choose) to walk the same path (usually as they have seen the Vision, or something like it), either in whole or in part.  Though everyone’s Dreams are different, so too are everyone’s Visions -basically- the same.  Dreams guide the one.  Visions guide the many, as individuals, and as a collective consciousness.

Thusly, when more than one “Will” is seen, both (or more) play a part in its actuation…  Not every Vision comes true, nor is every Seer 100% accurate, there’s just too many variables at play.  It’s not likely, we’re not perfect, and things/people can change!  Only the past is set in stone.  Some are, or can be, however, more accurate than others.

I’ve dreamt, all my Life, of One woman.  At first, and as a child, it was an unrefined Dream.  A few character features I couldn’t quite explain “why” I liked so much, I just did.  As I grew older, and discovered more of my “self”, and what I liked, I found more of what I wanted matching up with my “Dream(s)”.  One day, as I was -quite literally- placed in a certain place, at a certain time by the Powers that be, the Universe, Synchronicity, {pick one, choose your own, whatever, just so long as you find something to Believe in…} Father Sky and Mother Earth came together as one, and in a moment I’ll not soon forget (those same Powers that be so willing), the World, my Life, Past, Present, and Future, came together as one, and was seen in this Angelic Moon Goddess’ eyes, and it all made sense!  But only for a split second!!!  Thereafter, my immediate after thought became, as we Human beings are so notorious for doubt, “Are you nuts?  You literally just met this woman, and you’re thinking about the rest of your Life with her???”

It’s taken me the last 16, going on 17 years to have the Faith, the Belief, that Yes, Dreams can come True, if you let them, and if you’re willing to work for them, for the Vision to begin to form, and congeal, to become “real” enough for it to begin making sense!  Part of the problem, however, is if Dreams shared are only recalled by one part of a pair, the Dream itself changes.  I know she used to share/see the same Dreams, we’ve spent many days/nights talking about them… but of the Dream(s), or parts therein where our recollection(s) differ, without Divine intervention, and/or an attempt to help her recover those “lost parts” (should she even desire to remember/recall), are not easily reconciled.  I’m still recalling things I’d nearly forgotten of our past…

Things I’d seen and forgotten in that split second, began to make themselves known, as time moved on and certain events took place.  And this continues to happen.  But this hadn’t then occurred, and didn’t for several years!  At first, it was just a blur, a nagging thought, and when Life took us in separate directions, that’s all it remained to be.  A nagging thought, an inappropriate expectation forced upon (through my mind’s eye) the woman I married, who wasn’t this other woman, but a “quick” replacement, for I wanted the Dream to come true so much I forsook a few details, conveniently edited them for content so they looked the way “I” wanted them to, as the Vision took a back seat, and laughed at the folly of man, as he himself took a backseat and let someone else dictate what the “keys to success and happiness” were.  Not trusting what was already known/believed to be true.

Years later, when, once more, I was at the mercy of the Powers that be, and through the aftermath of the separation from my ex-wife, I finally accepted that I was not doing what I “wanted” to do.  I was not following my Dreams, nor making any effort to see them made real.  So, I began to do just that.  I began to do that which I’d always had a passion for, a talent that I could share with the world, one which I’d always Dreamt of doing, but didn’t ever believe could become real.

And within a year, I was working on getting a collection of my Poetry published, and looking to get/start my Life over, as I had always wanted, and Dreamed it may be.  Within that same year, the Woman of my Dreams re-entered my Life (ironically, once more, but through a series of “fluke” circumstances), and the Vision this time began solidifying for me through things that hadn’t been, couldn’t have been, real before!  Images started taking shape, the box of puzzle pieces dumped so “unceremoniously” in my lap before were now beginning to take form, filling in the “void(s)”!  I discovered that she was more of the woman I’d always wanted than I’d ever imagined she could be, she was, is, for me, Perfect!!  In every way, there is none better suited for me!  Everything important in a relationship, we have in common!  She is ahead of me in a few matters of “expertise”, she also had to fight a LOT harder to survive to get there!  Drastic events call for drastic change, or we are swallowed whole by the events found in Life!  Some rise above, and meet the challenge, others sink in to the depths and pits of sorrow and despair, and go back to believing “there’s nothing I can do…”

She has not!!!  She has risen above, to heights I can barely see!  She has been Blessed with (among other things) the Gift of Life, akin to and a part of the Greatest Gift, Love!  And she has done better and more alone, than many do with all the help they can muster!

At that time, I’d not yet learned for myself how easy it is to make your Dreams come True.  I was still waiting for someone/something else to show me how, or help me to figure it out, or allow me the time to figure it out on my own.

I had, nor was I given, any of it.  Once more, I had to lose.  This time, not only did it cost me the Lives of our unborn children again, but everything I most Truly and dearly wanted!  The Angelic Moon Goddess herself, turned her back on me for my folly.

I don’t blame her.  I couldn’t if I tried.  I wouldn’t dare.  She had given me all she could, and I, yet unsure of “how” to be me, fell in to old habits, not indicative of expressing Lovingkindness for another, and was not as responsible as I wanted to be, I still hadn’t overcome the shadow(s) of my past.  I forsook what was given/offered, because I still didn’t fully understand or appreciate what I had.  Finally, after losing our twins, and her a 2nd time, as well as the Love of a Precious Little Princess who called me the “bestest bestest Daddy”, I learned.

And now, nearly 2 years after the fact, as was meant to be (as I believe all things are), I’ve finally figured it out.  Or, at least enough for me to begin my path to being, doing, seeing feeling hearing tasting smelling and sensing in this World the Best that I can!  I’ve finally gotten out of my own way!  And since I began, doing the best I can, thinking the best I can, seeing feeling hearing tasting smelling and sensing the best I can, in “my world”, I’ve trouble asking for anything!!  Because I see how Blessed I am, I know how Blessed I am, I feel it, smell it, I can taste it, and sense it!  The Vision continues to unfold, two and soon three Epic Poems will have been written of it.  I’ve found Happiness as I never before imagined, Spiritually!  But Blessings unshared are only half as precious, half as enjoyed, half as healing as they can be.  ALL of Life is intended to be shared, most especially the Blessings.

Father Sky has so Blessed me with my mind and talents I would be a fool not to try to continue being better with both than I’ve ever been!  Mother Earth, is ever Forgiving, She is the Nurturer.  Father Sky the Provider, he’s forgiving too (But quicker to temper!  LOL).  I did not appreciate before, how Precious, rare, and Glorious Her Gift(s) were/are.

But again, I’ve learned.  I still breathe, there is yet Hope, I have Faith, and I am as Charitable as presently able, and will be more so as my means increase!  I’ll not again forget to give back, if even just a little.

She is still a part of my Dreams, this woman.  And a part of the Vision that is still unfolding for me.  The Vision now had so many years ago.  She dreamt it and saw it too!  But injuries have prevented her from recalling as much as I do of what we’ve shared {or so was the case when last we spoke… I truly don’t know what’s going on in her Life anymore}.  From the moment we met, we’ve shared a Vision!  In that Fateful instant, we had no choice, we looked into each others eyes, and there we saw Eternity!  Two hearts, intertwined and connected through Space and Time, found in an instant, between two young Lovers, not fighters, who wanted to see the world be a better place!  It was, at the very least, something we once “shared”.  At this point, however, it is no longer (as I’ve come to realize) just about me, what I saw.  It’s about what we saw!!  In that moment, and in the time we shared that followed, we awoke to one another!!  Our Dreams shared, as we spent each Blessed moment together unfolding the past, creating the future, we saw our Lives unfold before us, and we planned for ways to bring us back to each other, in the event we ever veered from our path!.  Like breadcrumbs, we began a trail that would always lead us back home… things to say, things to think about when we see certain things, smell certain things, memories placed in sync with things we do… gardening in the morning, riding our bikes, Lavender… different clues to spark and awaken recollection of moments, so precious, so rare, that we didn’t ever want to forget!  Songs we made “ours”, with hints in the lyrics for us to find, when we stopped and listened.  Things that would seep through our conscious, while we type, cook, clean, bathe.  Little triggers, like capitalizing the “O” in the word “One”, to remind us of what brought us together, what we feel when we touch, what we hear when we listen, see when we look, smell when we breathe, taste when we use our tongues, think when we’re alone.  An all sensory rapport!  However, time was not kind, and through varying events in our “separate” Lives, we forgot more than we recalled or remembered.  It’s taken me nearly 16 years to recall what I have,  and I’ve not yet recalled it all.  I can only imagine what she doesn’t now know and/or recall.  I can give her what knowledge I’ve gained, or try to help her recover what was lost, but now, at this stage of “the game” and our Lives, it must be her choice!  Though I still consider her “lost” to me in this present moment, we have been in each others presence within the last 9 months since I arrived  And nothing would have made me happier than to run up to her, hug and hold on to her, smell her hair, taste her lips, look again into the pools of her eyes, and see the Love we put there!  In each others eyes…  but, she asked/told me not to.  I don’t know why… at this point, I may not ever know.  But I have wanted it more dearly than anything else since I arrived.  To speak with her.  Once for the better part of 3 hours we sat not 50 feet from each other, and despite my intense desire to go to her, to plead with her, just to talk to her, I gave her her space.  She requested it.  When you let Love fly, you must let it do just thatIf we are so Blessed, when it is ready to land, it will return to us.  If not, we have done what was best for Love, and let it grow and fly elsewhere, letting them decide how they wished to Live, and decide what matters to them most, where they want to try and grow and flourish better than before, and hopefully, with those who wish/want the same.  And shown then TRULY, we do Love, for that is what Love is… caring more about that others well being and happiness more than your own!!  As I said, I discovered it was no longer about just me.  It never was.  And I hadn’t figured that out yet either.  It now doesn’t matter what I know, or remember.  What matters is whether or not she knows, or wants to remember!  Life to me now, is more Precious than ever before!  I am ready this time!  But now it’s not my choice, it is hers.  And I will honor her, with my Love, by showing her Love, by doing what she wanted more, giving her her space.  If she wants to let me back in, even the slightest, it will be her doing.  I’ve done all I can, and what I should have.  Now, I can but continue to be the best me I can, whether I’m able to share it with her, or anyone else, or not.  I’ve Lived my Life, no one else has… I must be responsible for those actions taken, and remember what I can of each moment shared, and Pray, that one day, there will be more sharing of moments together, and less wishing for them alone.

I can, and do, but Believe.  I can but -continue to- be the best me I can be, and remain grateful/thankful for all I have!  If she is to be a part of my Life, my Dream, the Vision I/we shared, then she must Believe in those same Dreams, the same Vision(s), and want to share her Life with me too!  And only she can determine that.

Because of her, all of the best things in my Life have happened!  I owe her more than I could ever give!  She doesn’t need me, and I don’t know what (if anything) she thinks of me any longer.  I can only now offer Love, as I’ve come to know it, and because of her, all the Happiness I’ve found being me!  These Gifts are but the least of what she deserves!  She is, after all, an Angelic Moon Goddess!  She is one in 7,000,000,000+.  She is all any wo/man could ever want as a partner!  She is a source of the Light in this world, and deserves no less than to have ALL HER Dreams come true!  Whether I am still a part of them or not.  As a Friend, a companion, a Teacher, a Lover, a Mother, NO ONE, compares.  And if she is half as aware of that fact as I am, it’ll be no easy task, nor free ride offered, to be so Blessed with the receipt of her Love, as a Friend or anything more!  But that’s okay… she’s worth it!  J

I’ve no need to keep looking, I found her.  I know who the Woman of my Dream(s) is, and I’ve met her twice.  She’s Living happily, I’ve heard.  I Pray it is so, few I think deserve it as much as she!  She deserves all the Happiness I’ve found being me, and more!  I Pray she is not Living as I, Half Loved, Half fulfilled, half complete.  The things I’ve seen, and accomplished because of her, because of the influence she had and has on my Life, is a treasure I will always hold most dear!  I’ve not ever before, nor since, and not again, been as Happy, as Complete, as I was/am or could be with her in my Life.  But that is her choice too.  I’ll not force or inflict my presence, my Dreams, upon her.  The Dreams/Vision(s) we share(d), must be claimed equally, or not at all.  Then or now.  If all I get is an occasional smile, it will suffice.  If I am actually so Blessed as to hear my name come from her lips, to read her word, perhaps then we can discuss once more the past, the present, and the future, and what they mean to us.  I’ll take whatever I am offered, and not ask for that which should be given.  Time waits for no one.  Life is precious, and ever fleeting, and when we are so Blessed, we get to share it with those we Love most.  If not, we either continue Living, or die.

I let her go.  If she comes back, I will be, once more, TRULY, one of the Happiest and most Blessed men alive!  Whether we Live on as Friends, or anything more.  If not, I’ll be one of the most Blessed, half-fulfilled, half-Loved, half-Lived people on the Planet.  I’ll still be writing, continuing to try and be better than before.  Even if I find “perfection” within myself, there will still be room for improvement, so long as I Live!

Who doesn’t want their Dreams to come true?  Who wouldn’t risk everything to see their Dreams come true?  Who doesn’t want the best of everything in/from Life?  Who doesn’t deserve the best this World has to offer, and the opportunity to pursue it?  The answer to these questions, is NOONE!!!

The best is soon to come!  We all have the opportunity to grow, learn from the past, and make a difference in the present, to benefit our future!  Or, there’s the obvious, and inevitable, truism, “If we don’t learn from the mistakes of the past, we are DOOMED to repeat them!”  I enjoy learning, how about you?

I believe, anything is possible!  I believe, we can accomplish anything, if we simply put our minds to it, and STOP allowing the word “can’t” to get in our way!  The only thing I know of, that we “cannot” do, is avoid death.  (Even so, anything being possible, even that, too, can be overcome.  But we’ll have to work more on helping each other, instead of hurting/killing each other, before that secret is discovered.)  Can you imagine, 7,000,000,000+ people, all doing their best, to better themselves, by being better, instead of trying to ”prove” it, or show it, just, doing it, being better, because they can, because they want to be!  It’s difficult… I’ve not seen or heard of so many working together for a common cause.  Or, better yet, for ALL common causes!  7,000,000,000+ people, choosing to Love one another, instead of choosing apathy, or entropy to be their Spiritual guides.  Wow.  The things we could do…

All we have to do, is care enough to listen, to discover what others want!  And once that is found out, and you find someone else who wants what you do, do ALL you can, to keep them in your Lives!  They are worth it!  You are worth it!  We deserve no less!  And -hopeful romantic that I am- I believe we can!!!

Blessed be!  Aloha!  Namastè!  As-Alàmu `Alaykum!

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Love IS the Answer!!!

As a follow-up for “Stopping the Madness”, I am so Inspired to provide the answer to “How???”!!!  And the answer is simple!  Love.

It is the “dirty secret” those who are in power and think they are in control would have you believe It is a “dirty” thing, a complicated thing, a convoluted thing, a “thing” in general, so bizarrely misunderstood, and all the more confusing, who has time for it anyway???

Who doesn’t want Love???  Who among us, is so brave -or foolhearty- to say, that they, can Live without Love?  Not I.

Love. It’s plain, it’s simple, It is easier to give, than to receive! 

Love takes work!  It isn’t disposable, or interchangeable, or something we can do without!  And it is so, very, SIMPLE!!!  All we have to do, is DO IT!!

We have allowed others to tell us differently for far too long now!  It all began, when someone was convinced, that the word “Love” would be an easier concept to teach, than “Charity”!  And thus it was changed, over 2000 times in the Bible!!!

And if those in power then, were willing to deface doctrine, Holy Scripture, in this manner for their own benefit then, what deceptions do you think they are willing to propagate now?  Better yet, what else did they change, to ensure their power structure remained in place, and the masses easy to control?

That’s the problem with power, it corrupts.  And this time, the lie is so deep, so close to the bone of humanity, that removing the dagger with which the deceit began may be too much to survive in its removal.  But we MUST try!!!  Religion is about the Faith, not the walls or title!  And the truest message taught by EVERY major (and most minor) religions, is Love!!  Love one another, Love yourself enough to want to do better, and in so doing, doing better by others!

Love is the answer!  Love is the reason we are here, it is the Greatest Gift, it is why we do the thing(s) we do.  But Love as it was meant to be, certainly not what it has become!!  How do we not get this?  How have we come to fail to understand, the simplest message on Earth, “Love one another!”, as to mean anything else, than to put their needs before our own?  Is this really so hard to understand?

We’ve proven time and again, we can kill each other.  Throughout millennium, we have shown that not only can we do it better, but that we can do it en mass, to greater numbers than ever before!!!

STOP!!!  What are we doing?  The only way we will ever survive, is if we work at doing it together!!!  Can you imagine, the Greatness that can be achieved, when 7,000,000,000 + people begin working together, to solve the worlds problems, instead of small pockets of un-empowered, well intended, overwhelmed individuals, unable to change enough, for there simply aren’t enough people CARING!!  What’s wrong with this picture?  Why are so few, doing so much, and so many more of us saying, “Meh, not my problem…”  YES IT IS!!!  It’s yours, mine, and every Living, intelligent beings problem, and we make the choice!!!  We can either strive to be better, and Live, not beyond our means, but within them, and give what we don’t need to someone who does!!!

Really, TRULY, it is that simple.  We need to bring back the Family perspective, make Love matter again, and do the best we can to understand that out of 7,000,000,000+ of us, not one, deserves any less than the rest of us!  We are all Family, we are all related, by the simple fact that we are ALL Human!!!  All Living things require Love -Charity-, Food, and Shelter in order to survive!  When did the “bare minimum” become the standard, and when did we accept it as being okay compared to having our Dreams fulfilled???  The bare minimum IS NOT OKAY, we can and should be doing better, for ourselves, and most especially for others!  Because when we do, we ALL benefit!!!

Want an end to world hunger?  Love more.  Want an end to poverty?  Love more.  Want an end to suffering?  Love more!  Want an end to petty bickering and strife?  LOVE MORE!!  It’s the one “thing” we all want, we all have to give, and can’t seem to get enough of!  Why? “Because we ‘can’t’!”  Yes we can!!!  I’m not speaking in tongues, this is no parable, just plain old, little old me, saying and putting to words, the TRUTH as we ALL know it to be so, and accepting the responsibility for having done so!  There is no reason for me to lie, and no way for me to get away with it if I were doing so!

We, as thinking, “intelligent” Human beings, choose, every day, to acknowledge the Light in our Life, or to accept the darkness.  Good, evil.  Right, wrong.  Again, it really is, that simple.  Any corporation, any religion, that tries to tell you differently, is LYING TO YOU!!!  Because they want their piece of the pie first!  “Before you go off, trying to save the world, give a little to me first.  I know it will be rough, but after my coffers are full, I’ll look out for you, I’ll just pad my pockets a little bit more, then we’ll get started on that whole, “lovey dovey” helping each other crap you’ve been talking about in your off time.  Hey, by the way, shouldn’t you be getting back to work soon?”  COME ON, PEOPLE, WE’RE BETTER THAN THIS!!!

At least, we could be.  If we’d stop paying attention to the supposed “leaders” who are “supposedly” looking out for our best interests…  I don’t know of one person today, in a seat of power, who is looking out for “my” best interests.  Were that so, I’d have a place of my own, my books would be published, I’d have a wife and kids… but I don’t.  Because the only one who wants these things for me, is me.  That does not excuse me from trying to be the best I can be at whatever it is I wish to do, in fact, it is motivation for me to do better, to be better, so that I can have those things!  Why would any one do any less?

Be the change you wish to see in the world!”  A great quote, by a great man.  But you know what?  He stole it.  As did I.  Because as simple as it seems, we haven’t gotten yet, how very easy it is.  How very easy it should be.  Love.  Charity.  Call it what you will, just, do it.  And the world will change before your very eyes!  I Promise!  Blessed be!

Aloha!  Namaste!  As-Alamu ‘Alaykum!

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Stopping the madness: No holds bard edition

A topic I’ve wanted to write about for a long time, but had not found a forum for, has become a four part article on examiner.com.  Here is what it may have looked like, had I not been limited to 300-500 words per article (as it is/was, that’s why it became a “four-part” article…  LOL)  😛

Take a look at the world around you!  We all have a part in it, we all have accepted an ever increasing decline in our expectations, we all have the opportunity to change, and stop accepting the “bare minimum”, from each other, and more importantly, from ourselves!

In order to successfully live our lives, we (all 7,000,000,000 + of us) need 3 things:  Love, food, and shelter.  And in that order.  We ALL have this in common.  So what makes any one of us different from the rest of us?  That too, is simple.  The choices we make.

There is no catch, there’s no trick answer, no hidden agenda, we ALL need these things.  We all want these things, more than anything else.  So why has starting, having, and sustaining our relationships become so… jaded?  Because, as we have so many times before, we began to expect less, not only from each other, but again, from ourselves!  And we have thus accepted less, of others, and of ourselves, in our attainment of “happiness”.

We only ever see ourselves through other people’s eyes.  That is what makes the relationships we maintain so critical!  The fact that we rely on others, to help us to define ourselves, means we all should be striving to better ourselves, by striving to better the quality of the relationships we have with others!  We should not be allowing a degradation of the collective consciousness, deprive us of being the best we can be, by surrounding ourselves with less than what we deserve!  And we all deserve the very best out of life, and from those we Love!

So how do we get it?  Love is a two way street, as is Karmic law.  We get back what we give, by some degree greater than it was in its “original” form.  By making an effort, greater than what the minimum “acceptable” limit is, we show we care!  We begin a relationship, by being interested, and staying interested, by giving what we can to make it work!

So why do relationships fail?  Because, we stop trying!  Because material possession means more than being happy with what we have, and as long as we can be “secure” in our stagnant ponds, we don’t have to worry about “the world outside”, so long as no waves disturb our peace.   Don’t bother watering the dying plant, just buy a new one!  We’ve become disposable.  We don’t want to improve any more than is required to “get by”, and why bother putting forth the effort for perfection when good enough is easy to find, and easy to replace?  Regardless of whether or not we’re actually HAPPY “getting by”.  Besides, the accumulation of wealth is much more attractive, and takes a lot less effort!  As long as we can “show” our value, why bother being of value?

Why aren’t we striving to do the most we can to see our dreams come true?  Why are we fighting each other?  Why are we doing the very thing(s) we know will hurt one another?  What sense does that make?  None of us want anything that everyone else doesn’t want too!  So why are we fighting over doing what we want, instead of just doing it???  Why are we still struggling so hard, to be ourselves, and do what makes us happy?  Why are we doing what other people tell us will make us happy, instead of deciding for ourselves what and how that is?  Life is so VERY short, NONE of us are Promised tomorrow, so why aren’t we trying harder to HELP one another, and do what we’ve always wanted to do, LIVE?? 

We, the “most intelligent” creatures on the planet, continue to struggle more than any other species to attain the 3 things we need most.  Why?  We are not stupid, slow, uncreative, unimaginative, or incapable of change!  We simply refuse to do so, because it might take a little more effort than settling for less than what we want, so long as it’s easier, doesn’t take as much time, and doesn’t involve the pain honesty might cause, when we admit we’re not doing all we can to better ourselves!  Instead of trying to share and enjoy the Life we interact with!  Instead we attempt to claim “bragging rights” for being better than everyone else, having more, instead of being more… and in this way we think we’ve “earned” more time to acquire that wealth that is so much more important than… what???  In who’s Life, is money more important than living???  Who among us wants anything more than being surrounded by those we Love, living as best as we’re able, sharing the joys and hardships, Living!  And if we are so fortunate (Blessed, for those with Faith), to rise the next day, among the same Loved ones, and do it all again?  We ALL want to Live, and to leave a chance for a better Life for our children (should we be so Blessed to have them in our lives), we all want the most out of and in Life.  We cannot have Life without Love, and vice versa.  They go hand-in-hand, we don’t get one without the other, so why have we endeavored for so long to remove Love -True Love, Charity- from what we consider “most” important while Living?

We should have in our lives, and/or be seeking to have in our lives, the lasting, fulfilling, life-long relationships that provide not only the foundation(s) of/for our social networks, but ground us to the “us” we want to become and/or remain to be!  If we are not now happy with ourselves, we cannot expect to be able to make another happy!  Or said in the more popular way, “We cannot love another if we do not love ourselves!” 

We are in the “prime” of our lives when we understand most what it means to “be alive”, and are more capable now than perhaps ever before, and mayhap ever be again, of achieving the “best years” of our lives, through our deeds!  We are at the top of the bell curve for “self” discovery, (I prefer to say “acknowledgement”, because, again, we’ve always been capable, we’ve simply cluttered our Lives with things we don’t truly need) as we should be transitioning from the “age of wonder” into the “age of accomplishment”.  In our thirties, we’re in the last decade or two of our lives before our bodies begin to drastically slow us down -by comparison-, preventing us from the level of activity we can now achieve/maintain.  But it’s never too late!  So long as we breathe, we are capable of choosing the right!!

Life is magick!!  All of it, every -otherwise seemingly- insignificant little bit, is magick!  The air we breathe, (breathing for that matter), the water we drink, the food we eat, the places we go, the things we do!  The words we use, the actions we take, and the ones we only think about taking!  The very thoughts we think, the sounds we hear and/or listen to, IT IS ALL A VIBRATIONAL energy we share, and it affects anything and everything and everyone around us!!!  We are capable of affecting our world(s), our environment(s), each other, simply by the way we interact with it/them!  Our beating hearts are a part of that rhythm too, as is/are the things we do to that heart, physically, and emotionally.

Yet we keep getting in our own way!  We accept 2nd best, because it’s easier, and we dare not expect too much, or we might get hurt!  If we don’t expect the best, we will rarely get it!  And I’m not talking about physical gain, I’m talking about Spiritual gain!  Everything physical passes!  It will not last.  At this point in our Lives, in our history, we should be making the changes in our “reality” that enable us to do the most, for the ones we care about the most!  We know Life is short, and can go at any time, so why are we still accepting the bare minimum?

We will not last long if we cease to believe that anything less than our dreams are possible!  If/When WE limit ourselves, we keep ourselves from the greatness we can achieve, by simply “accepting” things as they are, instead of continuing to strive for better!  And if we are continually striving to be better, how can we go wrong? 

It doesn’t always have to be “easy”.  Life’s not suppose to be easy, but it doesn’t have to be difficult either!  Just so long as it is what we want!  For if it makes us happy, the “toils” necessary to make it work, really don’t seem so bad.  It’s when we continue to struggle against ourselves, that we get caught up in making “things” more important than people, because they are “easier” to maintain.

There’s an old truism that goes:  “If we don’t learn from the past, we’re doomed to repeat it.”  As baffling as it may be… we still haven’t learned!

It’s time for that to stop!  We are (as we have always been) smarter than that!  And we have less of an excuse now than ever before, as we have “the digital age” to thank for streaming everything to race the information to us at near the speed of light!

We know better than to let greed corrupt our government, it’s what caused the Roman Empire to fall.  We know better than to let greed corrupt the market place, for it puts the middle class, the “Mom & Pop” stores, out of business.  We know better than to continue to pursue, and maintain relationships built on sand, instead of stone, for the foundation is what allows them to last!

Why are we so eager, to live hellishly, incapable of escaping the repetitive (cyclic) existence, repeating time and again, the very mistakes that made us unhappy to begin with?  Because we allowed someone else to convince us it is what we wanted!

It took me nearly losing my life for me to realize that my ex-wife cared more for the money I made than me, and before I would admit to myself that our relationship had “officially” ended.

But I still hadn’t learned.  For then I had to lose my unborn twins, before I began to truly appreciate how precious, and how delicate, how rare and beautiful life is!!  And how rare, the true bliss that is, or can be found, with the “person” of your dreams, who matches and compliments you completely!  And how quickly it all can be lost.

Only then, did it dawn on me, that EVERYTHING we do, matters!  The way we perceive things, the way we react, the words we use, the tones of our voices, our smiles -or lack thereof- affects reality as we know it!  Seeing the glass as half full, gives us hope, while seeing it half empty, fills us with the dread of what may yet be lost.  Only then, did being me become a priority, and the determination that every day, I would endeavor to be, and to become, the best me I could be, for we are NEVER promised tomorrow!  How much more must be lost, before we see that together we stand, divided, we fall?

We are capable of anything!  If we simply put our minds to it, we are capable of turning our wildest dreams, our craziest imaginings, into reality!  Just ask the Wright brothers, who were told time and again, “You’re crazy if you think you can fly!”  What happened to that unstoppable force of determination?  Of daring to be different, that set this great Nation on its course?  It got lost somewhere (I think) along the industrial age, as quality was replaced by quantity, and dreams were replaced with the “reality” that only the “rich” can afford to have fun… the rest of us have to work too hard for it, and by the time enough has been saved to retire, we’re not left with much to celebrate!

Why?

We are not bound to fail!  We are not expected (or shouldn’t be) to settle for things as they are!  We are capable of change!  We, ourselves, determine each and every day, whether we are going to accept things as they are given us, and remain stagnant, or take what we are given and make the most of it!

We have the choice, to learn from all that has befallen us, or to complain about it, and place the blame on someone else for the fact that we have not/did not put forth the effort to make a difference.  To be different.

Each new day, if we are so Blessed to rise, we choose, whether we shall rise to meet the challenges presented us that day, or take a back seat, and let someone else decide for us what they think we deserve.  We either succeed in bettering ourselves, and each other, or concede defeat in the face of opposition, and allow someone else to bear the burden.

Life need not be so complicated, nor our relationships.  When we meet someone for the first time, we can either do so with honesty, and the hope that one day something meaningful may come of it, or with dishonesty, knowing that at some point, the deception, once laid bare, will irreparably divide us, and cause yet more and pain and grief to be perpetuated.

We CAN do it!  We can make the difference!  We can shape our lives, as we see fit, by doing what makes us happiest, by seeking to obtain only that which we need, and giving back whenever so given the chance.  Or we can capitulate, treating each other no more honestly than we treat ourselves, trying to convince someone else that there is no escaping the pain we inflict.

We can change the world, we can make a difference.  We can reach for the stars, and touch them, hold and keep them.  Or we can believe what others say, that it can’t be done, that we can’t succeed, that we can’t change our world, merely accept it as it is, making no improvement “in the now”, or for future generations, leaving it to them to figure out, if they are even given the chance to do so.

All that’s stopping us, is us!  We limit ourselves, no one else.  No one is capable of keeping us from making our dreams come true.  Only we can decide if they are worth “fighting” for (metaphorically only, I am in no way condoning violence), or if we would rather lower our expectation(s) of what can be, and settle for 2nd best, as opposed to being the best we can be, in all aspects of our Life.  When we do our best, we find our best.  And ironically, in so doing, we also discover, we can do a lot more than we thought we could!

I wish, I dream, of nothing more, and nothing less, than one day being surrounded by my Family and Friends, and to share with them me, being me.  The best me I can be, and to share with them, they being the best they can be!  Or, the attempts we make therein.  Because that is what Life is about.  Not always being successful, or the best, but continuing to try!!  A great person once said, “It is when we fail that we learn to succeed!”  It really, truly, IS, that simple.

Our relationships are all we have, in the end.  They are all that make us “real”.  What will you see, when next you look to increase or strengthen a relationship?  Better yet, what will someone else see, when next they look to relate to you?

{To see the “original” article(s), click to this link for “Examiner.com” to see/read them as they are/were posted.}

Posted in Deep(er) Thoughts, How I see the World..., Life

Friends -And Friendship-: A (brief?) Essay…

Happy New Year!  🙂  I was originally going to put this Essay under my Page heading, “Love… So much more than a word!”, as it is most certainly applicable to Love.  Or at least “my” definition(s) of it.  But I’ve discovered that “Posts” tend to get more traffic, as they are the items which send out the updates, and for some reason “Pages” do not.

At any rate, this is worthy also of being a “Post” in its own right, and I hope it doesn’t “overshadow” too much the Poetry I only earlier today “Posted” as well.  Poetry is after all the greater sum of my Life’s work, though I’ve found myself more as of late dealing with the idea and reality of “Book Writing” as well.

Anyhow… without further ado…

Friends.  They are -and can be- found, made, and lost in an instant!  They are (or should be) for most the Life blood of us.  External influences, close enough to be Loved, some dearly so, but at a “comfortable” distance from those we may or might otherwise claim as “our own”, the endeared “Loved Ones” and “Family”, that hold their own sacred places within our hearts, closer than “Friends” usually are, with the exception of but a most special few, who inadvertently become Family in their own right, though not of Blood, and for the even more sacred few, those spouses true enough to the meaning of and qualities of Loving people/persons who begin as Friends, and remain so in the most intimate of relations we can put a definition to.

The problem with this is (not that there is by any means a problem with “Friendship” itself) that we, as a self-defining species, with an intellect and capacity for greatness yet to be fully recognized or achieved, have lost (seemingly) a true understanding, or perhaps comprehension of, the value, necessity, and meaning of “Friends”, or “Friendship”.

As we have so too lost all but the most basic and simplistic understanding of the origin, “Love”, so have we in the majority stopped (or greatly and noticeably, at the least) in the acknowledgment, consideration, and granting of this level of Trust, comradeship, and personal attachment that used to be -in my short though mostly recalled lifetime- a much more common thing among our fellow human companions.

I’m not sure if it is simply the level of Trust we are willing to grant others, or if it is the ever rising “fear” of closeness implied by granting another such intimacy within our “personal” spaces, that such a decline has occurred.

I find it is tragic nonetheless.  Friends, 2nd (perhaps 3rd) only to Family and Loved Ones, are a major point of our connectivity to the world around us, and provide us with an outsider(s) view of ourselves, where such honesty has not been tainted by current social “norms”.

It’s not as though we have stopped using the word “friend”, to be sure I find it no less in use than it has been in the past (Unlike Love, with which, though the frequency of its use has certainly expanded, our deep and personal understanding of WHAT Love is has greatly diminished through the course of history and our estranged relationships with one another), but it has noticeably lost a bit of its meaning, and importance to us!

It was not so long ago, that the person living next to you, was as likely to be a “true Friend” as they were to being simply a neighbor.  One was at this time able to rely deeply, and personally upon those they gave such lofty titles, and had little cause to doubt the sincerity or stalwart-ness of they who owned to them.

I’m not sure where exactly the blame should fall for this occurrence… surely and truly there is more than one cause.  I attribute at least a portion of this seemingly “common” mistrust of our “Friends” and “Peers” on our continued detachment from the “real world”, as we continue as a collective societal whole to delve ever more deeply into our “internet” relationships, wedging ever more deeply the divide between physical relationships and e-relationships.

It seems that, though the internet is a substantial and worthy tool for communication, research, and dissemination of news and information, it has been taking along with its ever increasing speed of connectivity the very basic and simple connections we once made “flesh to flesh”, instead of console to console.  We now conveniently hide our “true” selves behind vast cyber walls of protection, free not only of the fear in becoming attached to others at their core, and getting close enough to feel them, the Life within them, to see the scars and imperfections, but also to excuse this lack of humanity by deeming it “safer”, and less painful than being honest, and close enough to smell and hear those we connect to/with!

Don’t get me wrong…  I’m neither implying nor suggesting a mass exodus, or total separation from our newly -in the course of human history- acquired “digital” Lives, (though, to be honest, I wouldn’t be 100% against it either) I’m merely suggesting we take a moment to re-evaluate our physical, human aspect of Life.  And take a more human and humane approach to our definitive Lives, and, once a week, perhaps once a day, reach out to those around us!  Acknowledge not only one-an-others existence, but share in and appreciate the VAST commonalities we all have!  We all yearn for acceptance, closeness, appreciation.  We ALL wish to be heard, seen, and felt, even touched, smelled, and enjoyed!  These strangers that exist on the other side(s) of those fences, real and imagined, were once all considered to be Friends of one type or another, with varying depths of personal attachment, and provided a myriad variety (ies) to our Lives!

They enriched our very presence, gave credence and substance to our own Lives, filled voids that no 9-5 “relationship”, or digital imagery could ever replace, or come close to synthesizing.  Machines make a sorry excuse, and (excuse the frankness) piss-poor replacement for the “human touch”!!  A smile seen, a laugh heard, a Life felt, not simply acknowledged by unemotional acronyms and silly combination’s of characters zipped back and forth across invisible wires and signals on the latest and greatest IM’ing platform!  We ARE still Human, and our physical needs are no different now than they’ve ever been, and no amount or configuration of software and hardware savvy can replace the warm embrace of one we call Friend, let alone anything more intimate such as a Family member, or Loved One.

Let us return to a greater understanding of each other, to a deeper personally held meaning of what it is to be a Friend!  To share a more sincere understanding of what it is to Love, and be Loved, at this “basic” level, that one day we may find an even more true and intimate connection, we ALL seek and desire, of a Life Partner, once Friend, turned Super Love (and perhaps Lover) by the physical and mental connections shared and experienced in ways only physicality can provide!  Let’s not allow our digital avatar’s the opportunity to be more than we, our physical selves are!  Let us once more commune with fellow human beings, in a grand design of Life and Love shared on many varying personal levels, for the greater good and well being of our Human Family, and even if but for a few moments at a time, acknowledge our physical selves, and deny, disconnect, unplug from our digital creations, save some energy and turn off those fractious and fictitious weak semblances of “our selves” that have begun to dominate and separate us from our physical presence(s) upon this planet!

Live, Love, and reach out to that Stranger next door!  Let’s begin to be more present in our Lives, and less detached through our implicit use and addiction(s) to technology!  It’s nice to talk to people from around the world in a split second, but let’s not allow the technology to replace our physical relationships… nothing in the Universe comes close to the Joy found when touched by another Living breathing Soul, one you call upon and consider to be a Friend.

Posted in Poetry

I Want To…

I Want To…

 

 

I want to write,

but of what?

There’s always the popular,

what I know is liked,

& pleases the masses:

death, murder, pain,

suffering, anguish, sorrow,

mental anxiety, grief,

despair, loss, heartache.

“So real!  So vivid!

So true!  So much depth!

So me!  So altruistic!

So…”  Played out!!

I want to write,

but who would believe?

The brighter side of living,

those things we claim to desire:

Life, Liberty, True Love,

Peace, Happiness, Family,

Honesty, purity, togetherness,

caring, vibrant emotions,

Truth, unity, sincere feelings.

“Too happy!  Too idealistic!

Too much!  Too mushy!

Too hopeful!  Too naive!

Too…”  Unlike the real world!!

I want to write,

but what’s the point?

You cannot move the numb,

and so numb, have we become!

©   07JAN2010                                                       James Elron Mings