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Lost: One Good Sized Chunk Of Who I Am!

Last night -I was to find out this morning- I lost one of the best influences I had in Life.  My Grandfather, Donald R. KUEHN (I called him Grandpa), left his body behind, reuniting in Spirit with my Grandma who went before him, and went to a far better place than the World he left behind.  And to be sure, the World (my World) is a lesser place in his eternal absence.

He was in Life a grand individual, working every day he was able, Loving any who would let him, and rarely (if ever) giving up on those who didn’t (at least as far as Family was concerned).

He is, was, one of a few remaining “Men” in this world, as I define such things, from an era of Human Life/existence where you were not granted such a title, were you incapable of -not only- providing House and Home for your Family, but Building it with your own two hands as well!

Always hard working, sincere, ever active, giving, courageous, firm yet gentle, and always there when Family, or Friends,  or Duty called, doing quite literally all he could to help, in whatever manner he was able!  As my Mother said, “…Selfless!”  With an aura that let all in his presence know that things would work out, would get better, that there was still and would always be a Light to brighten the path, no matter how overwhelming, or daunting, or dark the situation.

In the shadow of the Tree of a Man he was, I am but a seedling, with little more than the hope that I might one day grow to be half as splendid as he was in Life.  He taught me what I know of Woodworking, of being a man of my word, and of “financial” responsibility, and the value of honest, well done hard work!  And through his example, the benefit(s) therein.

The first (and American) born of his German/Italian Parents, he was also among the last of an ever decreasing populous that put Family and Friends first, without question, without rebuke.  To him (and to them), there is, was, nothing more important, no matter the circumstances.  They did not cry or scream for divorce at the first sign of trouble, or discomfort, or hardship, they picked up their heals and strove forward, making the most of what they could, and what they had, even when it was very little.  I don’t ever recall him even once complaining, not about the things he could change, nor the things he could not.  He either changed them, or adapted, or both, and carried on with dignity, and his head held high, smiling!

He was a Gardener, a Woodworker, an Electrician, and all-around do-it-yourselfer!  He served in the U.S. Army as a Radioman during World War II, and was a part of the forces that landed at Normandy.  After returning to the states, he then continued the training received in the military to begin and continue a career in Communication(s), working with AT&T for over 35 years, and once retired, took Grandma in an array of Motor-homes and toured the U.S., Mexico, and Canada, taking a few Cruises around the Globe as well.

He leaves among the Living, 5 siblings, all sisters, his only child, a daughter, her three children (of which I am the oldest), and was able to see only one of four of his Great-Grandchildren, all begot by my sister, the middle (and only girl) of the 3 of us remaining.  He will be missed dearly, Loved always, and, by me, never forgotten.

To be remembered, I believe is the greatest honor we can give any who have Lived.  There is little -if any- other way to carry on their Legacy, for by all other means of Record, through time, unless passed from one generation to the next, orally, all things are eventually lost.

I Pray I am able to Honor his Life, and Memory, in that which I accomplish through the remainder of my own.  As I fear while he was yet Living, I failed to achieve the potential he so often said he saw within me.


I am a Writer and Poet, Construction Worker with a Union, would be Organic Farmer, Son, Brother, Cousin, Friend, and a few others. I would like to add a few more; Husband, father, .... the list will grow! I am currently working on personal growth, publishing my first book, becoming a Journeyman in the Carpenters Union, learning more of Gardening and Green things, and embracing Life as it comes! Life and Love are only as easy as we allow them to be, but are ever present, when we are ready to embrace them! Time is a tricky, devious thing, and Life is never easy. Nor should it be, the challenge is how we grow! While ever developing mentally and Spiritually over the last decade, The "obstacles to progress" are morphing into challenges to be met, and are ever changing. Such is the amazing Wonder that is Life, as we Learn, as we Grow! Too much structure is at the very heart of institutionalization, and not enough is the path to chaos. Learning that balance I believe is a Life-long challenge. One of many, as balance(s) is(are) ever changing too! All the while (and, as we ALL are...), I am, have been, and continue to be, so very Blessed!! Divine Providence, the "Finger of God", or even a reference to "Footprints"; all and more apply! The Energy of Life is all around us! Creating, Energizing, Healing, Invigorating! Life feeds the Energy of Life! Call It/Them how/by/what you will... Their presence and influence in and upon my Life has been amazing, and I could not, and would not, be who or where I am (NONE of us would/could be), without Them! Divine Providence, Creators/Masters of the multi-verse, the Spark of Life, the Energy that Nourishes, Higher Power, whatever/however you so choose to acknowledge our own smallness in the Universe! Without Their Love, Their Guidance, we are lost. We are sick, we are incomplete, when we lack the Faith to Heal and be Whole! I am growing, and Healing, and Learning, and am greatly in need thereof. But I AM growing, and Healing, and Learning! And so the Light "at the end of the tunnel" Shines ever bright! And Day by Day, I struggle, to be better than I was the day before, and to be prepared to be even better tomorrow! Hallelujah! Aloha! Namaste! As-Salàmu Àlaykum! Peace!

2 thoughts on “Lost: One Good Sized Chunk Of Who I Am!

    1. Thank you Susan… I had to make a few corrections after speaking with my Mother, but I Pray allthemore that it does the reality of who he was justice.
      Aloha! Namaste! As-Alamu ‘Alaykum!


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